①Most people would define optimism as endlessly happy, with a glass that’s perpetually half full. But that’s exactly the kind of false cheerfulness that positive psychologists wouldn’t recommend. “Healthy optimism means being in touch with reality.” says Tal Ben-Shahar, a Harvard professor. According to Ben-Shahar, realistic optimists are those who make the best of things that happen, but not those who believe everything happens for the best.
②Ben-Shahar uses three optimistic exercises. When he feels down – say, after giving a bad lecture – he grants himself permission to be human. He reminds himself that not every lecture can be a Nobel winner; some will be less effective than others. Next is reconstruction. He analyzes the weak lecture, learning lessons for the future about what works and what doesn’t. Finally, there is perspective, which involves acknowledging that in the ground scheme of life, one lecture really doesn’t matter.
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Most people would define optimism as endlessly happy, with a glass that’s perpetually half full. But that’s exactly the kind of false cheerfulness that positive psychologists wouldn’t recommend. “Healthy optimism means being in touch with reality.” says Tal Ben-Shahar, a Harvard professor.
大多数人会把乐观定义为永远快乐,总觉得杯子里的水还有一半。但这正是积极心理学家们不提倡的虚假快乐。哈佛大学教授Tal Ben-Shahar说道:“健康的乐观与现实联系在一起。”
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…According to Ben-Shahar, realistic optimists are those who make the best of things that happen, but not those who believe everything happens for the best.
根据他的观点,现实的乐观主义者会去积极实现事情的圆满,而不是坐等事情自己圆满。
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Ben-Shahar uses three optimistic exercises. When he feels down – say, after giving a bad lecture – he grants himself permission to be human. He reminds himself that not every lecture can be a Nobel winner; some will be less effective than others. Next is reconstruction.
Ben-Shahar提出了乐观训练的三个阶段。当他心情低落时——比如一次糟糕的演讲之后——他会宽慰自己这是人之常情。他提醒自己不是每一次演讲都能获得诺贝尔奖,总有些演讲的效果不如其他。接下来是重塑。
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…He analyzes the weak lecture, learning lessons for the future about what works and what doesn’t. Finally, there is perspective, which involves acknowledging that in the ground scheme of life, one lecture really doesn’t matter.
他会分析这次失败的演讲,哪些地方可取,哪些不可取,为将来的演讲积累经验。最后是前瞻,要认识到在生命的宏伟蓝图中,一次演讲真的没那么重要。